I have been coaching people for most of my life and studying human performance and personal development. One of the main issues that people have is that they are surrounded by negative people. Many wise teachers tell us that we become the average of our five closest friends or family. If you are married or have a partner then you only have four left. You better make those choices wisely or work the techniques below.
What do we do when we have negative people in our lives? Do we just kick them out and find others? That may be the answer to some of these “Negative Nellies”, but there are a few ways to try first.
You can make changes with others by understanding some basic ideas. Here are a few:
What we focus on expands
We need to understand that as we focus on the negative it grows. That is why so many people end up in divorce or hate their jobs. They focus on the negative everyday and it grows until finally no more relationship or job.
Start to see the positive things that the people around you do and accentuate it. It is amazing how this little shift can make such a difference.
Communication is one of the main areas that we have lost our ability in. You need to work on listening more and to stop assuming.
When most people communicate they don’t listen. They are already thinking about what to say next as the person is speaking. This is a horrible thing for relationships as people don’t even know what it is the other is trying to express. Work on your listening skills. It is amazing how this one skill can change your life.
Relax and forgive
We all work so hard to have the perfect life that we don’t forgive the closest people to us. We tend to hammer away at their imperfections. No one is perfect. We all have some issues. Learn to let people have theirs and forgive them for not being perfect.
Along with that, learn to forgive yourself. You can’t love others if you don’t love yourself.
If you can’t get somewhere with the person using the tips above you may just have to release them. Sometimes it is the only way to truly break free and create the vacuum law that will bring in new people that will move you forward.
Believe in yourself. You have the power of a dynamic life and the power to create your world. Take it day by day and as I always say keep working on the one percent improvement everyday.
JB Glossinger is the founder of the worlds first personal evolution system based on the principles of self help, personal development, self improvement, and life coaching. If you are looking for an award winning system to help you manifest a better lifestyle go now to http://www.morningcoach.com now. If you are looking for a dynamic motivational speaker or would like to learn more about JB Glossinger go to http://www.glossinger.com.
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